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YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, I LOVE YOU, THANK YOU

MOTHER'S LOVE HEALS US AND TAKES US HOME. WE ARE EACH OTHER'S MOTHER.

DEDICATED TO THE DIVINE MOTHER IN EACH OF US

Ric Schultz
Soquel, CA Dec. 2025

Introduction

This book is about Love.......Love is the truth and the answer to everything. Most of the chapters say the same thing: that we are magnificent and are here to realize that truth. I am a mystic so the words have that flavor. However, the basic truth of love is universal in all religions, and to those that are agnostic and are atheists. We all want to love and be loved. This is the underlining message. When I say WE.....I mean everyone and every living thing that has ever existed....on all realms. There is only one time.....the NOW......and when we let love be the experience in this NOW and every NOW we can remember, then we live in heaven.
Please read the book with an open mind and heart and take in what feels right and discard what does not. See and feel the truth BEHIND the words.
This book is not meant to be read all at once. Each of the 69 chapters is like a mini lesson and is complete unto itself. Take your time and feel deeply the words as they resonate in your being. You can read just one chapter and in some cases it is essentially like you have read the entire book. However, each chapter has a flavor and an emphasis and adds information and can deepen your experience (please read the entire book....you might miss the one thing you need to hear by thinking that you have “heard it all before”). We all need reminding. One chapter might not do much for you....then you read another and you start to cry. We are all in different places and when you read a chapter again at another time you might finally “get” what you need. You could use the book like a divination game. You can just spontaneously open the book anywhere and you will get the particular message you need right now. Such is life.....spirit is always talking to us and helping us know the truth about ourselves and what is in harmony with our next movement in time/space. As you embrace the miracle of life, you will see that you are always loved.
May the words and feeling of this book inspire you to become more filled with love and joy and want to make a difference in everyone you meet. Blessings, forever and ever.

Chapters

1. Conscious Relationships
2. D-PPPPAAAHTTK (D-Pahk)
3. D-Pahk exercises
4. Sexual Relationships
5. Affirmations
6. Be a Smile Billionaire
7. Blissing and Blessing
8. Breathing is life
9. Calling all Goddesses
10. Can you dig it
11. Celebrate
12. Conscious Creating
13. Conscious Dinner Party
14. Expanding into the Infinite
15. Fear and Love
16. Feel, Radiate and Express
17. Fun, Play, Joy
18. Healing, Grieving and Forgiveness
19. Healing the Sexes
20. Humpty Dumpty Syndrome
21. I Create all, I see all, I am all
22. I do everything to feel the love of God
23. I know who I am
24. Intuition and Knowing
25. I see you, I dance with you, I sing with you.
26. It Never Ends
27. Lost and Found…..loss of what?
28. Love Business
29. Love Corrections
30. Love Education
31. Love Police
32. Love, Power and Wisdom
33. Mice or Spirit
34. No Covid here
35. One Major Block
36. One Pointedness
37. Only Love Creates Love
38. Patterns-Obsessions
39. Permission
40. Permission to Love Deeply
41. Personality Prison
42. Posture
43. Pregnant Pause, delete button
44. Purity, cleaning, cycles of becoming
45. Raising our vibrations
46. Rate of Growth
47. Retreat
48. Ritual and Ceremony
49. Self-Love
50. Set goals, discipline, follow through, let God
51. Sharing is Love
52. Show me your love
53. Soul Families
54. Sound and Music
55. Stillness and Silence
56. Thank You
57. The Bottom Line
58. The Dance of the Elements
59. The Divine Romance
60. The Ever Living Miracle
61. The Infinite Beauty of NOW
62. The sacred spot and Touch
63. Unclutch
64. Watching our thoughts
65. Who Created this
66. Wow Mom
67. Yes
68. Yin Yang Gasm
69. What is possible.....right now

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Conscious Relationships (with others and self)

What is a conscious relationship? I define it as two people who are holding each other as the infinite possibilities of being (divine). If I see you as divine, then I hold the space for you to step into your divinity. You do the same for me. It is two people looking directly into each other's eyes and saying “YES” to each other on all levels. Yes, to this moment and yes to everything that is possible. It is both people holding the knowledge of the truth, that the only thing that really matters.....is LOVE and that is who they are....and at the same time also allowing whatever wants to be in the other to be OK.....For whatever someone is going through....it is just a moment in time and underneath whatever they are going through you hold them as pure love. It is like being a parent. You see the child acting selfish but you know they will grow out of it.....and your job is to love the child just the way it is now and also give guidance as to what pure love is. And sometimes you need to take the direct approach. However, even though in essence everyone is your child......you are not “in charge” of any other adult (unless they agree to it). The other person needs to want to grow and change. You cannot force lovingness. Your example is the greatest teacher.
The pure love that we are exists every second.....however, who the heck is purely in love every second? Well, WE all are....and we are not. We are both the pure love that is our essence but we are also playing out the illusion of separateness we have come to experience. A conscious relationship contains both......We know in our hearts and souls that we are spirit......but we also know in our hearts and souls that we are stuck in the illusion of separateness. We know we are here to raise our vibration to the highest levels of love and joy......so we commit to being in relationships with others who also want to raise their vibration and help us raise ours. So a conscious relationship is a mutual support dance. I hold you as pure spirit and when you forget, I remind you......and when I forget that I am spirit and get lost in my ego....you remind me.
A totally honest and fearless conscious relationship would have both people putting all their cards on the table......”Here is what I am working on......here are the attitudes that limit me......here is what I am hiding.........here is what I think you will not like about me.,...here is what my mind says about you”.....etc. etc. NO HIDING. When both people put all their cards (you can also call them sticks) on the table....then the game is to put them in a pile and pour love gasoline on them and burn them to death.....he he.
However, most people do not want to get rid of their ego that fast. They will keep a few sticks in their pocket till the ego deems it safe. For the ego is always trying to keep you from your joy.....keep you locked in the same old comfort zone. The more open, vulnerable and honest one person is, the more it helps the other person do likewise.
You cannot soar to new heights if you are afraid to give up your sense of worthlessness. That is the main reason we hide from each other. We think there is something wrong with us....and if we showed our vulnerability.....they would REALLY reject me. This is all a lie...a big fat LIE!. This is what D-PPPPAAAHTK ing can destroy in 10 minutes. When you worship someone with all your passion and let someone worship you with all their passion then you create a KNOWINGness in your soul/brain that transforms your past programming to a love and joy so vital and dynamic......you would think you are having a continuous miracle.
Most of the time when people are with each other they are doing things together and talking about the past, talking about others and talking about stuff (planning what to do, politics, sports, whatever). Now if both people love the same things then there is some connection.....but really only some. Do you really want to connect with someone? Then worship them......treat them like a puppy, kitten or baby.
Pure love, pure being, the eternal life that we all are......this is what consciousness is.......it is always being itself.....and totally knows itself. We are here on this earth to forget who we are and then to remember. So, a conscious relationship is just you remembering who you are. (you come back to being conscious of who you are). You have your ego self (lower self) and your soul self (higher self). The game is to remember your soul (the eternal love) and to let go of the separation from it (the ego). Every person is playing this game with our self. Dancing in forgetfulness and then in remembrance. Dancing between the ego and the soul. To be conscious of what is going on right now.....is the game. Are you in your ego....or are you living the infinite soul love and joy that is possible right now? How we wake up to our TRUE nature is to see that we are asleep (takes total self-honesty) and then to shift back to the souls perspective. Lots of people do not have a relationship between their ego and their higher self. They just relate to various parts of their ego and then once in a while......get “off it” (off their position.....for the ego is built on having an attitude or position about everything......and we talk endlessly to ourselves about how “right” our position is)......We are so silly......and we waste a lot of time. You only have a certain amount of attention moments in any incarnation......the more you use those precious moments wisely to feel love and be loving, then the more difference you make in in your life and the life of everyone. For...What you do right now (and every right now/second) affects everyone and everything that exists and has ever existed.
You need to get that you are creating everything. When you hold someone as holy spirit and you praise them and see them as beautiful and acknowledge them and touch them and hug them and kiss them.......they transform immediately to a more loving state. You are literally creating them in “the image of God”. Of course, they are co-creating with you. However, you are not the solo one God that creates everything......the all that is....is constantly creating itself....loving itself into existence. When you love someone you also grow into the “image of God”. The “other” person receives directly the love but is giving you the “gift of giving”......so they are loving you as well. Love connects us all together. We give each other permission.
Prayer/worship is essentially the ego commune....icating with the soul. You are tuning into the eternal within you. You cannot have a conscious relationship with anyone else unless you are having one with yourself. Everything in your life is a projection of your own state of being. When you decide to love yourself and grow as a soul.....you start to tune in more and more to spirit. You realize that life is a communal game.....and what you want to become one with is what is beautiful and eternal in everyone and with what is beautiful and eternal within yourself. Talk lovingly to yourself......write love letters to yourself......do some journaling, do some prayer, do some very focused meditation....create various moments to just be in silence (where you don't talk to yourself), do serious mirror work, make a soul based affirmation statement you read to yourself every day, etc. etc. Take time to notice the beauty that is always present within yourself.. These are some ways you can have a conscious relationship with yourself.
What are your friends for? Are they for entertainment, attention, fun, connection, pleasure, love, Drama, Etc.????? What do you want from your friends? What do you do with your friends? What do you say to your friends? How do you feel when you leave your friends and go on your way? How high of vibration do you experience with your friends? Do you keep doing the same thing over and over and the vibration never gets higher? Are you becoming a better person by having those friends? Yes, we need to examine our relationships.....with ourselves, with others, with the world, with everything that exists. Everything is connected.....everything is in love with itself......but do we notice? Do we care? When you realize that the whole game here is to grow up from our self-imposed limitations to the infinite love and joy that you REALLY are.....then you want to use EVERYTHING and EVERYONE to help you grow. The universe is constantly giving us feedback (love and wisdom) but we need to really listen to our higher self. If you have a friend that does not understand that they are infinite but you do.....then how is that friend helping you to realize your potential? They are mostly going to mirror to you the limitations they identify with. We feed each other consciousness.....we feed each other self-awareness...and love. When you look into someone's eyes and they are saying to you ...”YES” with their full being......you know how that feels........and you know it heals (both of you AND everyone!)
You can have friends that support you in your growth in certain ways but hinder it in other ways. You know, those that love you.....but also criticize you.....or are not nice to others. Your friends are mirrors of you. If your friends only want to grow a little.....then that is what you are saying about yourself (I want to grow a little). Some people can seem scary. If their light is too bright for your ego then you will avoid them or dismiss them. We are all going at our own rate. There is no right or wrong. We have eternity to grow back to infinite love and joy. But as you become more and more passionate about being all you can be....then you want the same from your friends....more and more. So, some friends will go away and new ones will arrive that support your higher vibration. This is natural. Are you going to be “loyal” to your friend who is a pain in the butt....or are you going to be loyal to the higher self of all and choose the most love you can be? Till death do us part.....really means.....till the relationship no longer supports the growth of the soul. Everything in time disappears. The essence remains but everything in time and space is always different. You are never separate from anyone. We are all connected....forever. But ALL relationships have a purpose.....and if your purpose is to be the best you can.....and then make a difference in the world.....then you will foster relationships that are mirrors of the love of God. They will be relationships of Love, worship, cherishing, adoring and enjoying......they will be uplifting. When you leave your friend/s you want to feel inspired and loved. You deserve this.
This is NOT WORK!!!! However, it can be uncomfortable at times.......but what you are doing is creating more and more joy and love. THIS IS FUN!!!!!! You have forever. Don't take yourself so seriously.....do the best you can and let go of your self-judgments. You deserve to be happy and the whole universe will align with you and support you in that BUT you must commit to it. You say to yourself....”I want to feel so much love for myself and everyone that I explode with joy!” You are never given more than you can handle......don't just HANDLE It......Devour it! No matter how much love and joy you experience there is still infinite love and joy for everyone. You cannot have too big a piece of the love/joy cake. The more you grin.....the more the whole world grins.....it's contagious.
We all need to be seen and heard. Our ego and our soul need to be seen and loved. We need to be loved for both our “form” and our “essence”. But if you are spending most of your time with your friends doing ego based communicating (talking about what already happened, what is happening in politics, talking about who did what or to whom, what is on the news, how the weather is.....etc...etc. to infinity).....then you are skirting around the truth. The truth is.......that you are totally in love with your friends and everyone else....every single second. What if you make your relationships REALLY CONCSIOUS.....by worshiping together and especially worshiping each other. Every time you see your friend is the first time you have ever seen them. They are not the same as they were before. We are all born anew every nanosecond. Everything you experience in time and space is new....this very moment. Ever see a child being given a puppy? They usually break down and cry....they feel so much love. Ever see a child run up to a loved one and hug their legs with all their passion like it is the last moment of life? This is what is going on every second. Do you really think your friends are the same as when you last saw them? Not hardly. They are the infinite forever manifesting in front of you with all their glory and beauty (and constantly expanding....just like the universe). This is your son and your daughter being born right in front of your eyes. You created them and they are creating you. The miracle of now is beyond words. The other day I went up to my friend who works in the local health food store and I grabbed his hands and started jumping up and down and we started making woo-hoo noises.....He started dancing along and we both started laughing hysterically. An orgasmic moment indeed. It is always present. All the love and all the joy that has ever existed is happening right now.
A conscious relationship is one where you are celebrating and worshiping the divine with each other. You acknowledge the divine in each other and you encourage each other to be more and more in the light. I suggest you spend at least half your “time” together D-PAHKing each other. And do other activities that support the awareness of light and love and joy......being in nature.....singing....dancing....giving each other Reiki, massages...acupressure....reading each other poetry....making up poetry together.....making up music together.....praying....meditating.... joyfully playing.....playing like wild children......talking about your “issues” and giving and getting feedback......holding each other in compassion. WE HAVE HAD ENOUGH SUFFERING!!!!!!.....WE WANT JOYFUL AND EXPANSIVE RELATIONSHIPS. It is time to grow through love and joy......not pain.

This is not about form but essence. There is no particular way a conscious relationship needs to look. You don't have to dress up as angels and say magic words (however, I recommend it!). It is all about intention. You will make up the moment as it arises.....we always do. You can do certain agreed forms and can always change them to another dance whenever you like. For instance, you meet with your friend and they are working through something tough. You greet them with love...but maybe you go right into them stating their issues and you discuss this with compassion for however long it takes. After a while one of you throws a pillow at the other and you both laugh.....at that point you can play more joyful love games. The point is to hold each other in as much love and joy and compassion as possible. You will know you are having a conscious relationship by how you feel when you leave. You will feel better about yourself and others....no matter what the form/dance was.

All relationships, from your point of view, can be conscious.....if you hold that intention very firmly. If someone is not holding you the same way......that is OK.....but you probably do not want to indulge very long in that interaction because the lowest common vibration will predominate. However, when both people are aware that all that exists is love.....then the vibration can rise very quickly. When you “treat” everyone with love....they will feel the vibration....even if they cannot return it. You raise everyone just by being you.

Learn to listen. The trees are loving you.....the wind is loving you, the sun is loving you....the waters and rain and stars and moon are blessing you. They are having a conscious relationship with you.....When the dog barks, when a bird chirps, when a cow moos....they are all saying 'I love you.” Return their love and thank them.....complete the relationship.

Group relationships can be another level up in energy. “When two or MORE are gathered in my name”.......yes, indeed. And the MORE the MERRIER. I have attended a number of growth seminars and spiritual gatherings and the magic that can happen when you have multiple people all committing to growth is amazing. When someone makes a breakthrough then it allows everyone the space to do the same. The more time spent together....then the deeper the spiritual infusion and transformation. This is why going on long retreats is so powerful. However, the most powerful seminar I ever took (Insight Seminar) contained many dyads (single partner exercises) and very personal interactions. This is what is missing in most spiritual practices and retreats.....In fact, what I suggest (D-Pahking) has never been done in any normal spiritual practice or done to the level I recommend.....except very occasionally in a seminar. Personal intimate loving supercharges the healing process....for everyone!

Can children and teenagers have conscious relationships? Of course, but it is all based on knowledge and maturity level. This is why conscious loving needs to be THE main school subject. However, even if there were such a school program......then it is still dependent on how a child is being raised at home. Conscious parents usually create conscious children. A child needs to have a constant source of teaching......or their ego will pick the easiest path. So, conscious child rearing and conscious schooling go hand in hand. Home schooling has many advantages, but does not supply the lessons learned by interactions with other children.

Imagine your world filled with close friends that you can really be totally real, totally expressive, totally honest, totally loving with (of both sexes).....Can you allow yourself to experience D-Pahking 4 people a day (at least 20 minutes each) and fully body hugging another dozen......all different people.....EVERY DAY?!? You would feel so much joy and love....your life would be totally amazing. Have you ever heard of a person doing this? This is your growth plan.....given this moment by me....to you....and to me (of course). Create as many conscious relationships as possible. He/she who dies with the most conscious relationships....wins.....he he. In reality, the more you experience your beauty and worthiness with others.....the more it spreads to everyone. You cannot have too much love.....you cannot have too many conscious fully loving friends. Most people, including ones with lovers, have never really experienced a fully conscious relationship. Every second is a miracle. Every time your friend comes into the room....it is GOD appearing in a vision.....but the vision is REAL.....real flesh and blood. Can you hold them as the beauty and light they are? Can you greet them like you are seeing a lost love for the first time in 10 years?....every time you see them? There is no more important moment than this one. All the love and joy that has ever existed is happening right now........the beauty is simply mind blowing. This is why “You are beautiful, I love you, Thank you” is such a powerful thing to say and feel. Our small mind cannot hold the infinity of love, joy and beauty that we are every second.......so “the simple truth”.....is about all the mind can say. We are blessed forever.....we are loved forever. It never stops. We stop noticing......and then we remember again.....such joy when we do.

What I am describing is people getting so close....they feel no separation. What about attachment? Won't I feel loss when I don't see them for a while....or they go away....not to be seen again? Here is the secret of happiness.......never stop loving, NEVER STOP LOVING.....ever. When you are in love......you are in love. Your true love is ALL WAYS with you. You are always loved by spirit.....by everything and everyone. No one can ever leave your heart. If you just have one close friend then you really do not have that much love. The mother loves all her children. You are the mother of the entire universe. Every grain of sand is your first born.....and is being born right NOW (and everything in existence is birthing you right now). This birth of creation....that YOU are creating (that we are all co-creating)....never, never, never goes away. Only our awareness goes away. Please come back to Love. The more conscious relationships you have (with people, with nature, with animals, with the divine) the less you will MISS one person or object when it is not in front of you. If you have 8 billion children.....you always have someone to love. Parents grieve over the loss of a child.....some grieve for years about it. Of course, there is a natural human sense of loss when you have spent so much time with someone.........But, if that is your only child......then it really hurts. Grieving is a process but it is not a destination. Have another child.....adopt a child.....volunteer at a nursery, preschool or school. Make your love so great that your heart is constantly loving, laughing and crying in deepest thanks for the miracle that is always happeni
When you get that everything and everyone is in constant change (the person that you love this second...is not the same as the one you are loving this next second).....and that underneath that changing landscape is the eternal perfect eternal love and light of God......then you will know that everything happens just as it is supposed to.....there are no accidents. So ALL LOSSES are meant to help you see that there is NO LOSS. How can you lose someone when you are them and have been everyone that ever exists or will exist? Everything on this plane is always changing.....so every second it is at LOSS (it has lost itself).....then in another second it is in FOUND (finds itself)......this happens every billionth of a second.....then it disappears again to reemerge again. This process goes on for eternity....yes, a long time....he he. Underneath the illusive creation process is the eternal love of God......having fun with itself. We are all the play toys of God.....of our divine nature. This dance will never end......never. Get used to it.....Learn to enjoy it. YOU CREATED IT. Let go of your pain and loss and fear and realize that joy is ever present......Make YOUR DANCE/YOUR SONG the most magnificent that you can imagine.......and take it another step each day by trying things you fear.......Step into the DIVINE Relationship.....with all life.....Make someone happy! Give them WHAT THEY WANT.......they want to be seen and be loved.
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2.

D-PPPPAAAHTTK (pronounced D-Pahk)

We have come here from spirit to experience being less than the pure love and light that we truly are and then to re-member and become that pure love and light again. We get programmed for our human journey mostly by our parents for our lessons in this life. This has been talked about by psychologists forever. When we are about 7 years old most of the programming is done. What we get programmed for is mostly limitations. We are neglected, abandoned, abused, and criticized by our parents and environment. This parental programming instills in us the basic human quality that most everyone has......low self-esteem (we think there is something wrong with us). The traditional spiritual processes are supposed to reverse these programs.......and certainly they work. However, I have known people who have meditated for 40 years and still have issues with women....or men....or money....or anger....or lack of motivation....or sex....etc. It is clear that we create our reality.....so we can overwrite the past programs by doing enough prayer and positive thinking and doing good deeds. etc. Lots of people go to healers and therapists to help them with the past programming.....YES, IT ALL WORKS......
However, since we were personally programmed that we are not worthy directly from our parents, etc.....then it seems that doing the exact opposite would be the most beneficial and obvious thing we could do to get back to knowing the beauty that we are.
You did not get enough love/attention/connection from your mother or father and you were put down by them (subtly and not so subtly).......So, what if you created a NEW mother and father and they worshiped you as the living breathing beautiful soul that you are and acknowledged you continuously and completely. What!? Where do I find such new parents? Everywhere.....for anyone and everyone can be your lover, your worshiper, your caretaker, your guide, your mother, your teacher, your true love, your supporter, your everything. We all have within us all the qualities of spirit.
I sit by the ocean here in Capitola and I watch people interact walking by this overlook. The people that have dogs......talk to people.....people talk to them. Those that do not have dogs generally only talk to those people who they have seen for years or....have dogs. Most people without dogs do not talk to people. So, what is that about? You see, we think of ourselves as broken....as shitty.....and we project this low self-esteem out on everyone else. So, if I get to close to you......you might smell my shit and I might smell yours.....now, that is uncomfortable....we don't want to be uncomfortable.....do we? We don't want to make others uncomfortable......so says the ego. The dog has no human ego......so we do not project our shittiness on to them.....they are “pure love”......but, if the dog does not like us....well, heck, it is just a dog. No big deal. So, when you walk with a dog.....your dog serves as an ego less connection point for human souls. The dog facilitates bonding between people who would normally not interact......”Oh, what a cute dog......I had one like that....how old is it?” 10 minutes later the people are talking about their kids or whatever. Without this ego less dog they might have never connected. Cats, dogs, babies.......totally safe.....Adults....Oh my God....have to be careful there (the ego says).....especially if they are the opposite sex (double whammy).
What if you treated every person you meet as your pet or baby? What if they treated you that way? Can we do this? You can do anything you give yourself permission to do.....if you are bold enough!
What if you could totally worship/cherish/adore/love someone and someone totally does that to you......This is how you treat a puppy......you worship it, you praise it, acknowledge it, affirm it, appreciate it, pet it, hug it, kiss it, thank it, and play with it.....with all your passion.
This is what D-PPPPAAHTK stands for: Divinely.....and Passionately, Pet, Praise, Play, Affirm, Acknowledge, Appreciate, Hug, Touch, Thank and Kiss. This is EXACTLY how we treat animals and babies......We worship/mother them. There is nothing serious or fearful when we worship and love animals and babies with all our passion. When we see other adults we go right into our ego fears and considerations......all based on our programming. Dang....those lucky dogs and cats....no frickin' programming. However, animals and babies cannot give back the same level of loving and awareness. They generally do not know they are divine and want us to know that we are divine. They are our “babies”.....we can worship them as God (DOG backwards).....but they do not have the awareness to worship us as divine. Animals can be incredibly healing.....for dang sure......but they cannot MIRROR our total divinity like another conscious human can. People can have super loving relationships with animals but will still be “scared” of people.
We think that the intimate unconditional love we seek can only happen in a sexual relationship....a Soul Mate........or with our pets or super close family or friends. We think there is a dearth of love on the planet and you have to search and search for your perfect mate so you can experience the love and joy you have always wanted. Also, our fear of loss jumps in and says...”Well, even if you do love me now, you will abandon me and abuse me soon

because that what men, women, people do�. So, with this fear of loss we don't even try to seriously connect with others....especially of the opposite sex. What if......the eternal unconditional love that you have always wanted is right inside of you.........Well, it is.......but it is hard to dig it out of ourselves.....by ourselves. We NEED to be seen....to awaken......Yes, we do. We are mirrors for each other......The mirror your parents presented is probably not the best soul mirror possible.....example:.....�Mirror, mirror on the wall....who is the fairest of them all....well not you, baby�. They did not SEE you.....they saw a projection of the patterns that they were programmed with. We are HERE to break this programming pattern: To transcend our parent's story.....to transcend our own story. We are not our story.....we are not our sex...we are not our race, religion, culture, our personality.....and especially....we are not our body. We are pure love......but we have forgotten. It is not like we are all the same essence personality.....No matter how high our vibration.....we are always unique and each person/soul has unique gifts to share. Without Every single one of us the universe would not exist. We and everyone and everything that exists are needed for this incredible miracle to happen. When we experience serious self-love.....we can manifest our gifts and live a life of celebration and service.....for to be the light and to serve others.....is the highest vibration.
What would happen if you totally fearlessly, passionately and intimately loved another human and they did the same back to you? Most people who are lovers only know and experience a portion of what is possible. Most people do not connect in a very deep way....because they don't know how incredible they are and how incredible the other person is and how incredible every moment is!!!!!! I read that 90% of lovers never talk about sex with each other. I read that and then I realized that in all my sexual relationships....it was true for me, as well.....YIKES! What if someone walked up to you in a store and told you.....�You are beautiful.....I love you....I feel so blessed that you are in the world.....you have these _______ wonderful qualities�. And while they are saying this they are stroking your face, hands, hair and touching your heart......then they sweetly kiss you on the lips and give you a super passionate full body hug? Is this cool?.....is this scary?.....�Call the police!!...someone is loving me!!�.....he he.
Can we create relationships that are mirrors of the divine? Can we be totally seen and totally see someone?.......OF COURSE.....we are the creators of our life. Want a miracle?....then create it!
Let's dissect this D-PPPPAAAHTTK thing. Which really means....Worship and Love and Mother someone completely and fearlessly with your total being.
D......Divinely....means you hold the person as the all that is from the place of all that is.....or at least all what you can imagine. It is not a religious thing....but you can interpret it how you like. When you hold someone as a �child of God, or a child of Love or Love or divinity itself....it is all the same. When you love a kitten or a puppy....and especially your own baby......you hold it as sacred.....you adore it....you worship it. This is what I am talking about here.....this is Divine.
P.....Passionately......means with your total fearless abandon. Ever see a child run up to a family member and throw their arms around the person's legs and squeeze them with all their passion? Of course. Look at the videos online showing when a child is given a puppy.....usually they start screaming and crying. Are we going to let children have all the fun? The more energy and passion you put into doing anything the more you experience its essence and power. You pet your pet with passion......you play with your pet with passion.....you laugh and jump with joy with your pet. I am your pet.....and so is everyone......jump with joy with me!!!!!! I see parents walking with their children and they are looking at their phone and not noticing anything else.....while the children are following behind and skipping and squealing and being in the moment. Love with all your passion.....do everything with all your passion. Get over your fear of looking foolish. It takes great foolishness to love deeply......and that foolishness is pure wisdom in action.....pure love power in action.
P.....Pet.......We all want to be touched. We came to the earth to EMBODY love.....not to sit in some cave and concentrate on other worlds. We are here to be the living embodiment of spirit. When you pet someone's face, hair and stroke their hands and massage their neck and back....they feel loved.....they feel honored. I was sitting with someone and he got up to get some more food and he walked behind this woman we both knew while she was sitting and eating and without announcing himself just started to massage her back and shoulders.....she immediately exclaimed very loudly �Oh MY GOD�......She so appreciated it!!!!! The man answered with a cute quip....�No one ever called me God before�.......he he. We have two semi feral cats on our property. One has been here for years.....and he won't let you pick him up but loves to be petted and will even roll on the ground at your feet and wants and loves his belly rubbed. The other female cat was purchased as a wild cat that we kept in the barn to �handle� the rodent problem. We also fed this cat but it would never come close to anyone......then after a while started to rub on things around us.....but would still never get that close. After I took on the feeding of these cats in the late afternoon I would spend a lot of time �talking� to the cats and eventually the shy cat would jump up on the stump where I put the food but still would not want me to touch her......but one day she came up to one of us and rubbed against his legs.......then I started to touch her very lightly as she walked by......then little by little she would love to be petted.....especially on the face. There are thousands of videos online of people petting animals......and how they ALL want to be touched....birds, reptiles, Lions, deer, foxes....you name it. The most common expression of love and connectedness is TOUCH. WE NEED TO TOUCH EACH OTHER.
P.....Praise. We became the way we are because we were not told we are beautiful and worthy....our truth was not seen. I never remember my parents ever saying anything remotely like this. In fact, I don't remember my father ever saying in person that he loved me.....Even my mother would hardly ever say she loved me nor did she ever say that I was worthy or beautiful. We pick our parents on purpose to set up the lessons we need. Parenting is an art.....you are only going to love others as you feel about yourself. If your parents programming did not include praising and showing love then they will pass that nonsense onto their children. I drove taxi in Berkeley and Oakland in the early 70s and I would go into the projects in West and East Oakland to pick up customers. I would hear single unwed black mothers talking to their children. It usually sounded like.....�Get your black butt over here you stupid nigger, I am going to slap you upside your head�. Imagine the self-esteem of the child hearing this day after day after day......WE HAVE TO STOP THIS MADNESS!!!! Of course, what the young mother was doing was what her mother did to her. She does not know any better. This is not a race thing (it is universal). We have all been programmed by our parents.....who were programmed by their parents. This is the opportunity that is before us....It is NOW time we break the non-loving patterns. We can praise and acknowledge each other back into the beautiful beings we inherently are.
Do you tell your friends and family that they are beautiful and worthy every time you see them? Why not? They are DYING to hear it. You can go into the cave of silence and say you love yourself and others.....over and over for an hour...... However, ONE Frickin' minute of praise coming from someone else is WAY MORE POWERFUL.....especially if you were not expecting it and it was stated with pure love, intention and passion (spoken in truth).
P......Play. We take ourselves far too seriously.....like if we don't get it right or get there on time or achieve our goals then we are going to suffer greatly. We are afraid to BE in THIS moment. We keep ourselves busy with self-talk, righteousness, distraction, reading and watching stupid stuff....and being lonely and afraid and angry. Do you like playing with your pets.....your children? Would we ever play if we did not have pets and children? We are children (our inner child).....who still want to play in the waves....squealing and screaming as the waves approach. This is why we watch late night talk shows.....they start out with jokes and continue in this vane. We go to comedy clubs so we can let ourselves have a belly laugh. However, we do this playing...this enjoying in a formulaic way. We only play at certain times......some people never give themselves the permission to play and laugh and smile.
The whole universe is a PLAY........it is a love play.....it is a joy PLAY. We are all dancing in each other's hearts. We are putting on costumes every day and playing with each other. Can you feel the eternal joy in that? Do you go to work with a frown? What if your work.....were play?......It is....If you have not set it up that way....then you have plenty of time to put on a new costume. You create your reality. Why would you want to create a reality that was not filled with love and joy? You deserve it......
When I was a teenager my mother would play a couple of my records: �Little old lady from Pasadena� and �I get Around�......She would dance around the living room in joy.....I was both embarrassed and amused by this display. When my friends came over I would hurry them outside to the back so they did not have to witness such frivolity.......I was so stupid back then. Now, If I see someone dancing in joy.......I bliss out on it and then join them in the fun. Sorry, Mother.....you were more beautiful and amazing and alive then I ever imagined.
We are eternal.....we are loved. We are joy forever.....Take time to play and have fun. Make up your own steps....your own dance.....your own words.....your own song. Make it a dance and song that is filled with so much joy that the whole world rejoices in it. When you express yourself with your total passion it is a blessing for everyone. Let it OUT! Looking foolish never felt so good. The comfort zone is for Zombies.....the walking dead/asleep. WE ARE ALIVE! Even those that resist your joy on the outside (ego judging).....are getting it on the inside (soul truth).
A......Acknowledge. Who the heck are we? Are we our bodies, our thoughts, our feelings and our actions? Not really. In essence we are not what we manifest.....for our true nature (infinite love and joy forever) is rarely fully in form. We walk around mostly asleep to our beauty, but if I see your inner beauty....your eternal truth and I tell you right to your face that you are beautiful......it starts a shift that allows us to see our own essence. We are mirrors for each other. However, it is not just the eternal that wants to be acknowledged......our ego, our body, our drama, our unique personality, our human traits....ALL want to be acknowledged and seen. Our HUMAN nature wants to be loved and so does our Divine nature......They are really the same but we have forgotten that everything is divine so that when someone says that your hair is divine.......even that awakens you.....for when the compliment is said and held with the feeling of total love......it is as if you are being totally loved. The subconscious does not know the difference between �I love you because you are the eternal love of the universe�:....which we all are.....or �I love your hair�.......Really......so any compliment about our form or personality is very powerful. However, when you acknowledge both the human and divine in someone then it is even more powerful. It is like the song.....�Friends shaking hands.....saying how do you do.....but they are really saying I LOVE YOU. So, shake someone hand.....compliment them.....and then really acknowledge them deeper by looking into their eyes and saying...�You are Beautiful....I Love you� Love everything you see in the person.....they are not just what your �human eyes� see. See them how Spirit sees them......with total love and awe. We are all a miracle!
A.......Affirm. This is very much like Acknowledge but carries the sense that we are truly here in this body......and That we are FIRMLY embodied......It is like you put your hands on someone's shoulders.....you look them in the eye and say......�YES� to their whole being. Yes, you are here....yes, I love you....Yes, you are blessed....yes, you are a blessing for me and everyone else. You are not just holding their hand.....you hold their hand with both of yours and you ground them in the truth.....the truth of their beauty....their incredible miraculous unique divine presence.
A......Appreciate. This has a very feminine quality. It is sweet love in action......It is charm. You tell someone that you really love the way they act, or their sweetness, or the way they dress.....for it is the small things that we do/manifest that also need to be said yes to. Compliments are really powerful. You see someone doing a good job of cleaning the streets....stop and tell them you appreciate what they do. It will make their day....maybe even their life. Not everyone can hear directly: I love you, You are Beautiful. It is not an all or nothing game.....Give people what they want......They ALL want to be seen and appreciated.....Everyone..
T......Thank. Life is a complete miracle.....60 trillion cells dancing in everyone's body. Whatever you are experiencing......you made up. You are the co-creator of ALL life. What power we have been given (We gave it to ourselves). Just look around and see the infinite beauty in everyone. Every single person is necessary for existence to BE. Everyone is beautiful beyond words. Their very existence is a total blessing for everyone.....INCLUDING YOU. Every cell of your body and all creation is doing exactly what is perfect in this moment. It might not look very beautiful on the lower planes but EVERYTHING is the will of God.....and a blessing and a lesson in love. There is only God loving itself. The only thing to say when you know this is �Thank You�.
We naturally thank those parts of reality that seem to love us directly...you know our animals and close friends...However, when you really get that you are birthing everything in front of you.....FOREVER......that means that everyone and everything is your child. Do you love your children? What is in front of you ... you birth every nanosecond. You are giving birth to the whole infinite creation billions of times a second. And of course, the whole universe is also birthing you every second HOLY HOLY OMG. Everything in your creation is YOU LOVING YOURSELF. There has never been anything but your love for yourself. Spirit loving itself.......forever. Thanking God, thanking life, thanking everyone and everything that exists is the natural expression of pure love realized. When the world gives you �non-love� then you are challenging yourself to love unconditionally....no matter what the circumstances......This is you loving yourself. How can you grow in love if you do not test yourself? You cannot. Welcome your tests....thank life for the opportunity to expand your ability to love
When you personally thank someone you connect them with your heart and with the heart of life. They become more open to knowing that they are also the co-creator......and loved. You raise your vibration....you raise their vibration.....you raise the vibration of every single quark in the entire universe. Your blessing is that profound.....Every one of us has this natural power.....the light of God....the light of life is within everyone......waiting to be expressed....waiting for us to drop our veil of forgetfulness. Remember dear ones......you are truly the light of lights. You deserve all the love and joy that has ever existed.....for that is what you are.

T. Touch. Most people don't know how powerful and creative they are. Just touching someone on the shoulder can mean the whole world to the person being touched. To affirm others by touching is powerful. If you imagine the love of God flowing through your touch then miracles can happen. If you touch someone on their forehead, top of the head and especially the heart.....powerful spiritual energies can be transmitted. Some people are so attuned that they can even just hold their hands away from the person and still instill blessings that are powerful. Touch everyone's heart and soul with yours. We have always been connected.....when you physically touch you are making our oneness real. Of course, you can just wave at someone and energy flows from God's heart to that person (especially with your full intention). You make up the game.....We are infinite. Intend to send love and healing to everyone. When you first touch someone, make sure it is done with tenderness, sweetness and beauty. These qualities can be transmitted just by intention....and it makes it safer for the person you are touching. A passionate touch or hug requires more mutual permission. As always, follow your heart.....trust yourself and everyone. Everything is perfect in the heart of God.

H....Hug. Hugging is a common expression of affection.....probably second after shaking hands. Someone goes up to greet someone and they extend their hand......however, if there is a stronger connection then it gets changed into a hug.....and if they really like each other....then a passionate full body hug. Of course, you see people doing the halfhearted hug where they bend forward and hug lightly but don't press their bodies together (�Hey, I don't want to lose myself in your arms....I need to be guarded�). Slowly increase the time you hug people.....add a second more each time you see the same person. The longer the hug the more the ego fades into a pool of love.......and the love waters are yummy! Can you hug for a minute?.....5 minutes? Even longer? Of course, it is all up to you. You can feel as good as you can imagine....Imagine BIG!
A hug is really a moment of unity between people.....or people and animals or nature. It is a statement saying......�I love you...you are in my heart, I am safe with you.� If someone does not feel �safe� then hugging is uncomfortable or not done. What makes us be �safe? We project our own consciousness onto every moment. When we see someone......we are seeing the projection of all we have encountered in this lifetime. If you feel totally safe in this life then hugging anyone (except obviously dangerous people) is a natural and normal way of greeting everyone......WHAT?.....who does that? There is an Indian Saint called AMMA who has hugged over 30 million people. She feels safe in this world.....Of course, she has people around her to make sure none of the �dangerous types�....bother her. Is it safe to hug people you do not know? I went to a class at a church where the theme of the class was open hearted spontaneous free expression. I had never been to the class before. I met the �leader� in front of the church with a couple of other people. I went to hug her.....and she resisted....saying �I don't hug someone till I get to know them�. I am coming to a church where the theme of the class is openness but the leader is not �open�? What are we all so afraid of?.......It is our programming that makes us afraid....even in circumstances that do not warrant it. She might have issues with �strong men� from her past.....so she is still in fear of men. We are all pretending the world is not safe......WE ARE NOT OUR BODIES!!!!! WE never die. There is no death. EVERYONE is your lover. Some day you will feel that what I just said is the only reality that exists. This lower level duality show is just a play.....an illusion....to keep us asleep and amused and let us grow back into the truth of our existence (pure love and joy).

K. Kiss.....What is this pressing/touching of the lips? Perhaps the most single powerful and sweet expression of love that exists. The mouth is linked to the stomach and the heart. When you are fed, you feel loved. You feed through the mouth. Kittens naturally kneed their mother while nursing.....stimulating food (milk). They also purr while feeding and while the mother cleans and licks them. This is all connected. When cats are adults they will still purr when petted, and fed. The caretaker becomes the mother and the food bowl is the tit. You pet them while they are eating and this is heaven. Some cats and many dogs will also lick you.....when they feel connected to you. To a baby animal the mother is �God�.....all that exists. In fact, without the mother, the cat or dog would not exist. Such is the divine connection for everyone. Humans are basically the same. We got our initial nourishment and love directly from our mother.....through our mouth.
We feed each other love and connection through our mouth and lips. What? I am sure you know about �sucking face�. The mother holds the baby up and worships it and kisses it. The baby knows about this lips thing.....it needs its own lips for survival.......and appreciates it when the mother wants to suck the baby back. Ever see a mother hold a baby and start devouring it because the baby is so yummy? What we cherish and find beautiful....is what we want to become one with....we want to be as close as possible. A full passionate body hug is amazing......but looking into the eyes of someone, holding their face gently and kissing them on the lips is even more sweet and direct. It is saying....I am your mother......I feed you.....I cherish you....You are worthy.....I worship you....I LOVE YOU. It goes right into the SOUL.
People kiss their holy book, their prayer objects, the ground......and whatever they feel is really important. There is also the phrase....:�sealed with a kiss�...meaning that this thing we just did or committed to is the real deal.....the truth. Our love for each other is the REAL DEAL.....it is the TRUTH of our soul. The kiss seals that truth into our heart.
There is only the kiss....the touch....of GOD. Adam touching God's finger. Every moment God is kissing us.....caressing our cheeks and is always in our hearts. The point where we touch each other physically is the holy point of points......you put your full attention on that spot and you disappear into the other person......there is just one.....the one sacred being....the one sacred moment, the one sacred love, the one sacred kiss.....that lasts forever.
Of course, you can kiss someone on the forehead or hands. This can be less �threatening� to humans as mouth kissing is held by many to be sexual. Kissing is just kissing. When you kiss your pet or baby it is not sexual. Always follow your heart. Every situation calls for a different �form� of love. However, the essence can ALWAYS be powerful and spiritual. We make a difference.

D-PPPPAAATTHK....ing.....is what we naturally do when we love/worship someone without fear. It is how we treat animals and babies. They have no human ego so we do not project our lack of self-esteem on them. We treat them like they are God.....for they are. But they are not more spiritual and loving then humans......It just seems that way because we are all so afraid of each other. This is what we have come here to overcome. To see how we are stuck in our comfort zone of separateness and learn to feel and express all the love and joy that exists. Our loving heals.....our loving heals....our loving heals. We love ourselves, we love others, we love everything and everything that happens.......we can do this......we can create heaven on earth.
So, how do we do this? No one ever asks how you love a pet? We are no different. We are all at different levels and playing the fear/separation game differently and evolving at different rates. Look at your life and how you interact with people. Where and when can you be more open? I was just in a dollar store and the lady in front of me was sweetly praising the person and store to the clerk.....the clerk was stoic. So I said to the praiser.....�That is because you are so sweet�. She was not open enough to respond, but I could tell she liked it. Even the smallest gesture can turn someone around. We can learn to be more and more open by practicing it. You keep expanding your comfort zone. Can you walk up to someone you do not know and put your hand on their shoulder and look them in the eye and tell them they are beautiful? What? You crazy dude? Women can do this in a lot of situations. Women are not considered sexual predators.......so, if a woman has any charm at all she can walk up to practically anyone (in a safe environment) and compliment and love someone......without every knowing them. If all woman did this starting right now.....the world would transform in a week to a heaven on earth. All wars, and dissonance would cease. We would all feel loved. So is the power of love.....the power of the divine feminine......THE POWER THAT WOMEN HOLD. However, most women do not feel any better about themselves than men......so they are afraid of being uncomfortable or making others uncomfortable......so they just walk around in a store and not interact with the level of openness and power they possess inside. We are all (men and women) on a giant withhold. Holding our love and joy back like a giant dam......and this dam is what we have come here to examine and blow up. We are here for eternity.....so we are all going at our own rate. If you really want to make a giant difference in this world then you need to be adventurous. You need to see that life is a LOVE adventure.....a Love exploration.....and a Love experiment. If you do the same thing over and over again you get the same results. A is Average......if you do A over and over you get B.....which stands for Boring. You need to do C.....Conscious (Continuously Creative).....to get to D or Divine.
Use your creativity and curiosity to figure out how to do this in any and every circumstance. You see.....We are all waiting for YOU to Acknowledge and love Us. Take your time......The only thing you have to lose is your sense of separation, powerlessness, ego and sadness and most of all FEAR. Do you want to feel the best you ever have? Everyone and everything in front of you at any moment is the most divine dance that has ever existed. People are all divine but most are not AWAKE to that reality.....they are forgetful. Frampton sings....�Do you feel like I do�. When you feel the love of life and the joy of life more and more,.....then you want EVERYONE to feel just as good.....and even better. For if someone feels and shares more love and joy than you then they are giving you permission to dance along. Feeling jealous is stupid. Embrace everyone's happiness. It is a lonely and limited dance when you dance by yourself......WE are all connected. But most people do not realize this. It is YOUR JOB (do it with joy and lightness) to acknowledge yourself, others and everyone. EVERY person you meet wants ONE THING......to be seen....to be acknowledged....to be loved. The more you love others the more you love yourself. The more you love yourself.....you naturally love everyone. Narcissism is just love of the ego.....YOU know....�I am great....you are not�. Real self-esteem is �I am great, you are great, everyone and everything is great�. The ego is a lie. We are and have always been pure love. We are all the divine SELF.
This D-Pahking can be a group experience, as well. You can have several couples doing it at once and then the �B� person moves to the next �A� person until all the Bs have D-Pahked with all the As. Or you can do an �Angel Wash� where you have half the people stand in a line across from the other half and one person at the end of the line closes their eyes and is pulled though the middle of the line as everyone praises and loves them and physically pulls them and pets them till they get to the end of the line. I have experienced this in a seminar where 100 women did this to around 25 men. Almost every man was crying by the time they got to the end of the line. This is powerful shit. You can also put one person in the middle of a group and have everyone love them. I consider the form of most spiritual practices somewhat archaic. Why is everyone worshiping one person or one deity or facing one direction? God is everywhere and in everything. There is this story where a man goes into a temple and he lays down on the floor with his feet towards the altar. The temple keeper comes out and tells him this is a no no. The man just lays there. After a few minutes the temple keeper gets so mad he gets a stick to beat the man.....just as he was about to hit him the whole building starts to shake and then it completely turns 180 degrees around......while the man on the floor stays in the same direction....so now his head is pointed to the altar. Obviously, the temple keeper is now in Awe. Where is the temple of God?.....Everywhere. Where is the Altar of God.....in our HEARTS......and everywhere and in everyone.
I was watching a Youtube video of a Hindu Guru (Swami Vishwananda�very sweet man and teacher) dedicating a new temple in NY. . When he came in they all greeted him and garlanded him and when he got on his �throne� they washed his feet and poured oil on them and then scattered a lot of rose petals on his feet. Very sweet. Then I thought....�Here is a way more cool thing to do�: After the guru gets his love he then stands next to the �throne� and someone else gets to sit there and gets the same loving treatment by him and someone else on the other side of the throne. After that person gets loved the Guru then leaves and walks around the whole temple and blesses each person one by one. Meanwhile the third person takes the throne and the second and fourth person love them......and then the second person goes around the temple and blesses everyone and this cycle keeps going until every person in the temple has been loved.....has personally loved two people and has done the blessing to everyone. Another addition would be to have the entire congregation chant the name of the person (Like: Hare Susie, Hare Susie, Hare Hare, Susie Susie) who was on the �throne� at the time. OMG....by the time this is over (probably several hours)......everyone's mind would be blown to kingdom come. Of course, you can do this with just a few people, as well. We are all worthy. We are all beautiful.
There is no �permission� on this planet for people to love each other as I described.....till NOW.
I GIVE EVERYONE ON THE PLANET PERMISSION TO LOVE ONE ANOTHER as intimately and passionately as they love their animals and babies.....and.....AT DIVINE LEVELS THAT DEFY ALL THOUGHTS AND CONSIDERATIONS AND FEARS.
I can give you permission.......but nothing happens till you give yourself permission. Pure love is fearless . We all have a fearless heart. Our spirit heart never dies.....only the ego comes and goes. You have to let go of your ego fears to enter the kingdom of heaven (pure love and joy). You can do this......Start with an invocation and prayer to be fearless and that the whole universe is supporting you in your prayer......for it is. Yes, you can.....Yes, you can. Yes, you will.
Everything returns home......to Divine Mother's Breast. Please walk home.....hold my hand....I am here for you.....we walk each other home.
You are all beautiful and full of love and joy. Now is the time for us to show it and to heal each other. YOU CAN DO THIS......it does take courage......you have it! What is the worst thing that will happen? You will feel uncomfortable? Someone does not like what you did? Do you really care about what the small mind thinks? Minds just think what they think. You are not what someone's mind thinks. What others think of you is none of your business. Be in your own power. KNOW YOU ARE WORTHY. If you love someone purely....their soul will take it in as a WIN.....no matter how their ego reacts.
Love more fearlessly every day.....make this your goal......NEVER STOP LOVING....NEVER! Miracles will happen more and more when you love.....for love itself is the ultimate miracle.

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D-Pahk exercises

We naturally love animals and babies. We don't need to be told how to love them. They have no human ego so we have no human fear. However, when we are with humans we go into all kinds of uncomfortableness around loving other people. It is great talking and learning about loving, hugging and acknowledging each other deeply.......but we need to get over our initial fears to actually do it. There really is no difference between loving a pet and a human.......but that is not how our ego holds it. So, in order to make loving safer we can create exercises that are somewhat formal and this can allow a gradual unfoldment of loving. These exercises are not �the way� to do it....just suggestions. Make up your own dance steps. We are all infinitely creative. You are sovereign.

Mini exercise with others:
Holding hands, look into each other's eyes and say hello to each other including saying their name.
One person at a time holds each other's face gently with your hands and tells them they are beautiful, that you love them and thank them for sharing their light with the world, while still gazing into their eyes.
Smile and eye gaze with each other without speaking while holding each other's hands, arms or shoulders for a minute.
Hug deeply for at least 30 seconds.